One of the challenging roles of parents is to stay out of the "ick," to remain detached from our kids controlling behaviors. As one therapist said, "Every time they suck us in (we get mad, or yell, or show our annoyance), they get a zing." Stay out of your kids poor behaviors. Try and show them that their choices impact them, but everyone else's life goes on.
Here are some tips to try. Some are words and phrases to use, some are actions. Mix them up. Keep your child on his or her toes so that they can't anticipate your response. Try these: